Should You Spend the Night Before Your Wedding Apart? Pros and Cons

Should You Spend the Night Before Your Wedding Apart? Pros and Cons

The night before the wedding, every bride goes to bed, anticipating eight wonderful hours of blissful dreams and the joy of the next day. But the question is, who do you spend the night with? Due to superstitious beliefs, many couples have been separated until their wedding, preventing their matrimonial fate from being predetermined from the start.


Spending the night before your wedding is also a metaphor for marriage, implying that two people who have lived separate lives come together to establish a life together.

For other couples, spending the night together means bringing some normalcy to an otherwise extraordinary weekend. Others, on the other hand, take a more traditional approach and sleep apart, building anticipation for the big reveal.

The good news is that there are no wrong answers. It all depends on the mood you want to set for the next morning. Whether it’s a sleepover with your bridesmaids, spending time with your mother, or cuddling up with your soon-to-be husband, you can still make the night unforgettable. In this blog, we will look at many scenarios to see if it is beneficial to spend the night together or separately.

Different Scenarios

1. You Already Live Together

What better way to get a good night's sleep than to keep to your regular bedtime routine? Spending the night with your soon-to-be husband will feel natural if you already live together, and the comfort of normalcy will keep you grounded during the weekend's excitement, nervousness, and anticipation. 

However, if you want that wow factor following an emotional reveal on your wedding day, spending the night together may feel too much like your normal routine. 

2. You’re Having a Destination Wedding

Since you’re in a new location, spending the night together will seem exceptionally special during your destination wedding weekend. We recommend splitting up after breakfast if you want to build anticipation before the surprise. 

Furthermore, because there is no home base, you can save money by sharing a single room rather than paying for two suites or having one of you stay with friends or relatives, which may result in a sleepless night on a pull-out couch. The early-morning feeling of anticipation when you wake up and look forward to seeing your soon-to-be husband is a rare and unique sensation.

3. You Have a Large Wedding Party

If you have a large wedding party, spending the night with your fiancé allows you to get away from the hustle and bustle of the ceremony. The night before can be emotional and stressful. You can create intimacy by recalling your initial meeting, exchanging gifts, and discussing the significance of this period in your lives. 

It's a perfect night to reflect on who you've chosen to marry, your vows, and the rituals you'll build as a couple.

However, there are also drawbacks. You'll miss exchanging stories with your girlfriends and discussing what was going on in your life when you met your future spouse. But, if you split up the next morning to get dressed, you'll be able to spend quality time with your girls while being pampered.

Other Considerations to Being Together or Apart the Night Before Your Wedding

1. You Won’t Get the Chance to Be With Close Family or Friends

Spending time with close friends on your last night as a fiancé may be meaningful. You can easily plan the evening to your group's preferences including a slumber party with your bridesmaids, a late-night game night with your groomsmen, a quick trip to the bar with your closest friends, or even a simple night with your parents. 

Spending the evening with your future spouse may leave your loved ones without a night like this.

2. You’ll Get Quality Time Before the Your Wedding Day

As you've probably heard, you'll spend very little quality time with your significant other on your wedding day. While post-event reflection is good, a decompression session with your sweetheart in the hours before you wake up to planned chaos might just be what the both of you need. 

Take some time to savor the silence, bask in the thought that you've prepared something wonderful, and simply relax and enjoy each other's presence.

3. The Big Reveal Could Lose Significance

Spending the evening and the next morning together may distract you from the special moment your soon-to-be-husband sees you in a full bridal gown for the first time. Something about being apart for a day makes that special moment even sweeter. However, you can make this moment just as special by spending time together before going to bed separately.

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Whether you're spending the night before the big day with your bridal party, and your partner, enjoying some alone time, or inventing a new tradition, make sure you get plenty of rest. The next day will undoubtedly be one in which you want to look and feel your best, and those hair and cosmetic appointments will begin early!

Jeanne's Hair & Makeup Studio is a professional hair and beauty studio in Asheville, NC that offers on-site, mobile hair and makeup services. We provide brides, bridesmaids, and mothers an exceptional beauty experience on the big day! For more information on our services and pricing for bridal makeup and hair, as well as trial run costs, please contact us!